Thursday, 16 September 2010

Know If Someone Is Interested In You Immediately By Reading Their Body Language

If there is one thing that can save all of us a lot of time, trouble and heartache it?s learning how to read the body language of the opposite sex. How many times have you misread the body language of someone, thinking they were attracted to you and when you made your move you were shot down in flames! The ability to read the body language of the opposite sex can tell you whether they are attracted to you or not from across a room. It can also help keep you from sending the wrong signals yourself. Reading body language isn?t all that difficult to learn and once you get used to it you will find it is almost instinctive.

One very easy way to tell if someone may have an interest in you is how close they stand to you. If they are standing farther away and move closer this can be an indication that they are interested, on the other hand if they are close to you and move away it can mean the opposite. It?s similar to the two foot rule in sales, if they come within two feet of you they are very likely to be interested in you. The reason this is such a big deal is because they are sharing space with you within reach of you and trusting that they are safe with you. If someone stays more than two feet away from you it is almost certain that they are not romantically interested in you.

Mirroring your body language is another way that someone can show they are interested in you. This is usually done without even thinking about it, but if you notice someone doing it now that you have a little knowledge about body language you can feel comfortable that they are interested in you. In most cases the other person doesn?t even realize they are doing it, but it is simply instinctive for us to imitate people we want to be close to.

The way that someone stands when they are speaking to you can show body language that tells you whether or not they are interested as well. If someone is speaking to you and they are turned towards you and possible even leaning in towards you it is an indicator that they are interested in you. Much of romantic body language is built around trust and safety. If you appear unguarded then it makes the other person feel safe, if you open yourself up to another person and they mirror that body language, they are most likely interested in you.

One of the biggest indicators of romantic interest is eye contact. When we have an interest in someone or we are attracted to them we strive to make eye contact with them and if they maintain eye contact with you they are definitely interested in you. When someone purposely looks away or avoids making eye contact with you they are not interested so either way you get a pretty clear message from the eyes.

Even though body language is usually understated and involuntary it can also give a clear sign of romantic interest. It seems that because body language is instinctive also makes a very precise signal of romantic interest.

Is It Time to Go Forward or Step Back In Your Relationship?

Many people are stuck in relationships that seem to be going nowhere. They aren't moving forward and neither of the people involved is ready to throw in the towel. Relationships can't always be fun, exciting, and you won't always be filled with that intoxicating feeling that you are overcome with when you first meet someone. But, how does one know when it is time to quit a relationship or time to take the next step?

So many people say that they "just knew" that it was right when they met that special someone. Don't worry; if you aren't sure, you aren't alone. In fact, many people have doubts, even as they are taking that next step, or even as they are walking down the aisle. It's normal to question whether someone, and your current situation, is right for you, right for the person you are involved with, and will fulfill you over time.

Relationships are hard, and they take a lot of compromise. If you think that the relationship you are in should end, what are your reasons? It's a good idea to sit down and list all of the good and bad things about the relationship. Then, look at the good things; do the bad elements of the relationship outweigh the good things? Are the bad elements of the relationship anything that you could change? Are you or your partner willing to change, or is best to throw in the towel before you waste anymore time? Really analyze the relationship, you should have to earn your way out of the relationship and quitting should be the last option.

If you think that you should go forward in the relationship, you should also analyze this choice. For instance, if you have been dating the same person for ten years and you suddenly want to get married, why the sudden change? Are you in a hurry because you think you "should" get married? If you are feeling pressure from other people and the decision didn't come from the heart, taking the next step may not be the best idea. If you want to progress in the relationship it should come from the heart and you should take steps to see if the relationship really can stand the test of time. If there are things that you cannot stand about the person you are with, then don't take the next step. On the other hand, if you have just needed ten years to get comfortable with the idea of marriage, that's fine! You just need to be sure that the next step is yours and that you are comfortable with it.

Relationships take a lot of work and we all realize what we want and need at different times. If you believe it may be time to end a relationship or take that next step forward, be sure that it is a logical thought process. It's always a good idea to list the pros and cons of your decision and then go from there. When you are sure of what you want, it's a lot easier to make a relationship work or make a clean break.

Ten Do's And Don'ts Of A Wonderful Marriage

With the divorce rate as high as it is, you must do everything possible to strengthen and protect your marriage. You can't always have your way or give in to your feelings. You have to discipline yourself to do the right thing. You must do what is in the best interest of your marriage. Here are some fundamental guidelines that can make a huge difference.

1. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. I like to remember that God gave us two ears and one mouth. Use them in this ratio. Listening is truly an art form and it takes practice and commitment. If you don't listen to each other, someone else will.

2. Don't always try to be right. You cannot be right and be married. It is always better to do the right thing than to be right. Trying to always be right will doom the future of your bond. The powerful chemistry that you once felt will be diluted.

3. Never threaten to leave or divorce. Things change between you once you speak these words and it's hard to correct. Even if you're angry, don't threaten divorce.

4. Be quick to say, "I'm sorry". It amazes me how rapidly a couple is strengthened in love by sincerely saying they are sorry.

5. Don't expect your spouse to believe all the same principles you do. Respect their differences and them. Love them unconditionally.

6. Build your spouse up. Freely give encouragement and praise. Remember, it is better to give than to receive. Most people are starving for kind and uplifting words. Don't let the person you love fall into this category.

7. Always side with your spouse in disputes outside of the marriage, even when they are wrong. Respect the bond of your marriage. Give your spouse the message that "You can always count on me. I'm here for you."

8. Learn to appreciate the things your spouse does and verbalize these often. Don't take your spouse for granted. Thank them for the things they do for the marriage. Cooking, cleaning and bringing home a paycheck are worthy of frequent appreciation.

9. Try to never go to bed angry with your spouse. At the very least, learn to allow a truce between you until you can figure things out. Your marriage is more important than the conflict.

10. Start and end each day by telling your spouse that you love them. Let your eyes and your embrace convey the same message.